Last week I talked about social media in my sister’s relationship with her new boyfriend. Now let’s talk about mine. Before you go on a first date with someone, do you friend request them? Over the weekend, I met someone new who asked to see me again. While drinking my Monday morning coffee this morning and beginning my daily e-mail and social media check, there it was: A Facebook friend request from my future date.
Too soon? If we become friends now, he has the opportunity to find out all of my interests, likes, and recent activity before we speak again. There are 3,000 pictures of me including some with my ex, me as a baby, my sisters and mom, etc. On this first date does he pretend he doesn’t already know that I grew up riding horses? That I just drove across the country from Florida to move to California? Or- How I look in a bathing suit?
What if he sees something they don’t like? Can your social media presence affect your dating potential?
I haven’t accepted the friend request, and don’t plan on doing so until after the date. Don’t we want to get to know each other face to face instead of through the Internet? When do you think it is appropriate to send that friend request? Before your first date, right after your first date, or after multiple dates? Ahhhh, as if dating was already stressful enough!